God centered dating
We courted for 1 year and 8 months and kissed for the first time on 8/14/2010. SO, let's first quickly break down the difference between courting & dating. We STAYED out in groups with people and family & we were rarely alone in our almost 2 year courting process. It wasn't EASY but if it was EASY, everybody would do it. Before we even get into that-- let's just make sure that we're ALL on the same page. You can't just "say" you're a Christian cuz you go to church. It was great for him and I to see how each other interacted with others in large groups. Clearly it is Christ who initiates the relationship—“We love because he first loved us” (1 John ).Furthermore, the Ephesians 5 passage describes the husband as “the head of the wife.” Men are called to be—created to be—leaders.The world teaches that you are supposed to put your kids and your parents before your spouse. We are so quick to say I believe the Lord has given me this person. If the person is not Christian, then the Lord didn’t give you that person. Many people get into relationships and when they break up they find out that they were not really in love. Not only are you to lead each other by the way you live your life, but you have to worship together. You will start saying, “maybe I’m too this, maybe I’m too that, maybe I need to start looking like this, maybe I need to buy that.” That is idolatry and of the devil. He wants you to keep on knocking and one day He is going to say, “enough, you want it? If you seek to enter into a relationship with an unbeliever not only is it wrong, you will regret it, and you will be hurt. There are so many things in this world that help you deceive yourself. In a relationship you both are going to learn from each other, but the woman takes the submissive role and the man takes the leadership role. Is he living in godliness and seeking to obey the Word?
As you move into the stage of life in which you begin to seriously consider marriage generally or a particular relationship, your first step should be to soberly reflect, before God, on your own spiritual walk and maturity in Christ.In my view, if you can't happily picture yourself married within a year, you're not in a position to date.Third, once you decide that you are ready to date, look to God's Word to decide the kind of person to date, and evaluate potential dating partners on those criteria, rather than relying primarily on the world's treatment of ideas like "attraction" and "chemistry." I wrote at some length on this in my article, "Brother, You're Like a Six." For you busy singles with time for only one mildly irritating column per day, the summary is this: Pick a potential dating partner with an eye toward godly manhood and womanhood — with an eye toward who would make a good husband or wife, defined by those characteristics esteems in His Word, not the ones Hollywood likes.You could be engaged and SO close to the wedding day-- HOW do you abstain?!?
Well, this post may be for you if any of the above applied to you. BUT deep down, YOU want your relationship to glorify God. God may be trying to speak to you concerning that guy.. If God is cool with you staying with him (and BOTH sides have repented and made a decision to honor God) then start this journey on the same PAGE (amos 3:3). STOP cuddling, rubbing, putting yourself in 1:1 situations and if it's late, you shouldn't be at each others house! (Proverbs ) STOP watching stupid reality TV songs, going to clubs, love-sex songs, pornography or blogs.